What is love? Love has been watered down by so many applications; I love my dog, I love chocolate, I love the ocean, I love my family, I love my car, I love sports, and on and on. The definition of love at the core is an intense affection or intimacy.
I suppose you can have intense affection for food, pets, things and activities, and that satisfies one side of the definition, but intimacy is for relationships. That’s a different kind of love that penetrates into the deepest part of ourselves.
As a young man eager to take on the world once I entered the workplace, I came across this statement that had a profound effect on me: There are many things that will catch your eye. Only a few will catch your heart. Pursue those.
Since then I’ve tried to maintain a healthy balance of what I do, what I have (or want) and where (and how) I spend my time. You can always tell what is important to a person by where they spend themselves.
What I learned was that even though relationships were always important to me, I was letting myself “love” too many things at the same time. That’s when relationships suffer. There’s only so much you can actually love. The heart knows. Listen to it.
Valentines Day is a day of love. Not of things, but for people. Relationships. It’s a day to tell your loved ones you love them. Then pursue them, and keep pursuing them. And don’t let other things get in the way.