Peeling the Onion
Peeling layers of an onion is sticky and stinky. It can even make you cry as vapors escape, released to reach your eyeballs. But there is no other way to get to the core with your fingers unless you cut through it with a knife.
In the movie, Shrek says, “Ogres are like onions … There’s a lot more Ogres than people think,” he tries to explain to Donkey, referring not to the smell or the color or what happens to it when left out too long, but rather it comes down to the literal actual layers around the core.
In the movie, though Donkey and Shrek have differences, they eventually become inseparable friends. But it doesn’t happen until the relationship develops. And that takes work, that includes listening.
One way to peel the layers back and get to know a person is by simply listening to them. I mean really listening, with both ears and mouth closed accept for asking questions. Get a person to talk and let them talk while you listen will open doors, expose the soul, and strip the layers that are sometimes sticky, stinky and hard to peel away.
Listening is a skill that will peel away the layers to get to the core.